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I'm Just Not Good at Not Communicating with You...

Please communicate

Communication is a fundamental aspect of human interaction. It shapes our relationships, enables us to connect with others, and plays a significant role in our personal growth. However, there are moments in life when we need help communicating effectively or are hesitant to reach out to someone.

Unfortunately, I fall into the category of those who always want to carry on conversations with people I care for; it’s hard because I get ignored more than anyone could ever imagine.  

You see, communication has always been a part of who I am. From a young age, I found solace in expressing my thoughts, sharing my experiences, and seeking guidance from others. Whether through conversations, writing, or even non-verbal communication, I felt most alive when I could connect with those around me. It became a source of joy, fulfillment, and understanding.

But what happens when this seemingly innate ability to communicate falters? I find myself in a state of unease, grappling with the fear of rejection, judgment, or simply not knowing how to express myself adequately. This fear of communication can sometimes overshadow my genuine desire to connect with someone, leaving me feeling isolated and misunderstood.

For instance, have you ever had someone cross your mind, and you genuinely want to reach out to them, yet an inexplicable hesitation holds you back? It's as if our insecurities weave a tangled web, preventing us from engaging with others. We worry about being a bother, interrupting their busy lives, or fearing they won't reciprocate our desire to connect. It's a constant battle between the genuine longing for connection and anxiety-fueled doubts.

The struggle to not communicate is intensified in this digital age. We have so many means to reach out to others, yet the virtual platforms that are meant to enhance communication often become a barrier themselves. Messages left unseen, unreturned phone calls, and misinterpreted social media interactions can all contribute to feeling disconnected from others. But again, it is not because we don't care - it is simply because we fear miscommunication or a lack of understanding.

Yet, despite these challenges, I am fully aware of the importance of communication in nurturing relationships. Through open and honest dialogue, trust is built, conflicts are resolved, and connections are strengthened. By recognizing my struggle, I have been able to work on improving my communication skills and overcoming my fears. It's a process that requires patience, vulnerability, and a willingness to step out of my comfort zone. However, I continue to reach out to people who just flat-out ignore me- they want to talk on their terms, and do you know how much that sucks?

To my equally communication-challenged individuals, let's embrace our flaws and work towards becoming better communicators. Let's acknowledge that it's okay to feel hesitant, but it's even more important to push through those barriers and share our thoughts, feelings, and experiences with those who matter to us.

 I must admit that I am just not good at not communicating with you. It's a part of who I am, and I am learning to navigate the challenges that come with it. So, let's continue to reach out to one another, engage in meaningful conversations, and build connections that withstand the test of time. After all, communication is the glue that binds us in a world that constantly pulls us apart. I’ve lost many connections; I'm not trying to be annoying but just trying to feel the connection. My heart breaks when people flat-out ignore me. It sucks, and it makes me want not to try. I care about people, and it's just amazing when they ignore you. If someone says to me, don’t answer back… I think it's not in my nature not to say anything (even if I say too much).


Let’s talk,



Time to Dish:

  • Does this happen to you?

  • In today’s world, people can quickly not answer, and it's so ridiculous that adults cannot say what they are thinking or are not interested. They do not respond. It’s sad; who has made you feel this way?

  • As a communicator, how do you deal with these situations?



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