Taking a Pause

Let’s be real — life after divorce can feel like a marathon you didn’t train for. Everyone’s telling you to “get back out there,” “focus on yourself,” “start fresh,” and you’re just over here thinking, Can I get a nap first?

Here’s the thing: you don’t have to hustle your way into healing. You don’t owe anyone productivity while you’re rebuilding your life. Sometimes, the most brilliant move you can make is to hit pause.

Not a full-on, dramatic “I’m quitting life” pause — more like a “let me breathe before I snap at someone who doesn’t deserve it” kind of pause. The kind where you check in with yourself and realize, I’m tired, I’m over it, and I need a damn minute.

Taking a pause doesn’t mean you’re weak or lazy. It means you’re human. It’s permitting yourself to stop pretending you’ve got it all together when you’re actually hanging by a thread and a half cup of coffee. It’s choosing rest over running. Stillness over scrolling. Solitude over situationships.

Maybe your pause looks like canceling plans. Perhaps it’s sitting in your car for ten extra minutes before going inside. Maybe it’s saying, “I’m not okay today, but I’m working on it.”That’s a strength. That’s growth. That’s healing.

So yeah, take your pause. The world will still spin. Your ex will still be mediocre. And you? You’ll come back with your peace intact and your energy protected.

Because not every season is about the glow-up, some are just about the slow-down.