We all want to be loved. We all want to love and be loved in return. We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t. And IMO, there’s nothing more satisfying than a healthy relationship with someone who cares deeply for you. But if you’ve been having trouble finding this type of love, or even if you think that no one will ever be right for you, I'm here to tell you that it's not true! You can find true love, and I will tell you some of the reasons you’re feeling the way you are, but at the end of the day, why L-O-V-E is worth it.
You feel no one will ever be the right person for you.
You are not alone; trust me on this one. You will find the right person because I firmly believe there is someone for everyone, even if it doesn't initially seem like it. If your current “love life” situation feels hopeless or impossible, it’s probably because the guy/girl you’re with isn’t a good fit. And If you're having trouble believing that there could be someone out there who would love you just as much as you love them (or more), take a moment to think about other things in your life that have been hard and have turned out well despite those challenges.
When you love, and you cannot find anyone.
Again, you're not alone. So many people feel the same way, and you are not to blame. But do not give up on love! Keep trying and searching until you find someone who thinks as you do. Someone willing to fight through all the hardships with you and make your dreams come true. They do exist.
When you love, and they are clueless.
As if! The world is not filled with men/women (OK, sillies😆) who can’t read relationship vibe signals. Trust me, there is someone out there for you, someone you can be happy with, and they will be pleased with you too. You deserve to be loved by someone who will treat you well, respect your feelings and give back what they receive from the relationship. If this person isn't showing up in your life right now, don't worry; maybe it's time for something different. Perhaps it's time for some space so that when the right person does come along, all those old feelings won't blindside you again. Sounds reasonable, right?
You can also find happiness without another person being involved at all! We spend so much time searching for our soulmates, but sometimes we need to learn how to be our soulmates before we can truly understand what makes us happy or unhappy within ourselves, leading me to my next point...
Love IS worth it.
If you're in the process of giving up on love, take a deep breath and remember that it's worth it. That may sound sappy, but it’s true pinky swear! You will find love when you stop – yes, STOP - looking for it. Love is not a competition. Everyone has their timing, so don't worry if other people are having relationships while you aren't.
Love is also worth it because there is nothing better than feeling connected with another person in such an intimate way that your hearts beat as one (another cliché but very true). However, this feeling cannot be forced or rushed into happening before its time and not to be a total downer, but it may never come. But that’s OK, too, because when you love yourself and have family and friends surrounding you, you’ll never be alone.
There will always be moments when we question whether our feelings are reciprocated or whether our partner cares about us as much as we do them. But what matters most is recognizing how lucky we are to have found someone who wants nothing more than to spend time with us!
Love is all we all need,
Erin
Time to Dish
· When you love, and you cannot find anyone.
· When you love, and they are clueless.
· When you feel like no one loves you - that is a good person.