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Feeling unwanted hits differently as adults. It’s not just a passing sadness—it can feel like a deep soul bruise. That sense of being unvalued, overlooked, or invisible has a way of creeping into our confidence, our relationships, and even how we show up in the world. But here’s the real truth: feeling unwanted doesn’t mean you are  unwanted. It means you’re human — and something inside you is asking for attention, healing, or change. Why We Feel Unwanted Today In 2025, life is loud, curated, performative, and sometimes isolating. That combo makes it easy to slip into the “I’m not enough” spiral. Some of the most common triggers still ring true: Past experiences still talk — loudly. Old wounds, abandonment, rejection, or being consistently overlooked can echo for years. If you’ve ever been made to feel optional, you may still carry that belief even when reality has changed. Social media doesn’t help. Everyone else’s filtered happiness, success, couple selfies, and “perfect” lives can trick you into feeling like you’re behind, lacking, or simply not wanted enough. Your own inner critic can stir the pot. Sometimes the feeling of being unwanted comes from within—low self-esteem, self-doubt, or the belief that you’re “too much” or “not enough.” What Feeling Unwanted Does to Us This emotion isn’t small. It can shape how we think, behave, and connect. You start doubting your worth. That inner monologue turns harsh and unforgiving. You shrink. You question everything. You isolate. When you feel like no one wants you around, it’s tempting to pull back to protect yourself. But that often creates more loneliness. Your mental health may take a hit. When the feeling lingers — anxiety, sadness, and overwhelm can move in. How to Overcome Feeling Unwanted (Starting Now) This isn’t an overnight fix, but it is  absolutely something you can move through. Here’s what helps: Call out the lies in your thoughts. Challenge the stories your brain tells you when you’re hurting. Swap the “I’m not wanted” narrative with reminders of your value — and yes, you do  have value. Talk to someone. A friend, a therapist, a trusted person — anyone who can reflect the truth back to you when you can’t see it. Practice self-care that’s real, not performative. Walks, rest, hobbies, saying no, sitting in the sun, journaling, reading something comforting, anything that reminds your nervous system that you matter. Be gentle with yourself. You wouldn't speak with cruelty to someone you love. Don’t do it to yourself. Set boundaries. Protect your energy. Move toward people who show up for you and away from people who consistently don’t. Grow into the version of yourself who knows their worth. Personal development, small goals, trying new things, and celebrating wins — these rebuild the foundation from the inside out. You’re not “too much.”You’re not forgettable. You’re not unlovable. You’re a human being who deserves connection — and someone out there absolutely wants what you bring to the world. Remember: you are wanted, valued, and worthy right now , not someday. And hey… we want you. We get it. 💛 Erin Time to Dish: Have you ever felt like someone really wanted you — and then they suddenly disappeared? What did that do to your heart and your confidence? How did you handle the emotional whiplash? Are you unsure what to feel when this happens? And most importantly: what can you build in your life that doesn’t rely on anyone else to validate you?

Feeling unwanted hits differently as adults. It’s not just a passing sadness—it can feel like a deep soul bruise. That sense of being unvalued, overlooked, or invisible has a way of creeping into our confidence, our relationships, and even how we show up in the world. But here’s the real truth: feeling unwanted doesn’t mean you are  unwanted. It means you’re human — and something inside you is asking for attention, healing, or change. Why We Feel Unwanted Today In 2025, life is loud, curated, performative, and sometimes isolating. That combo makes it easy to slip into the “I’m not enough” spiral. Some of the most common triggers still ring true: Past experiences still talk — loudly. Old wounds, abandonment, rejection, or being consistently overlooked can echo for years. If you’ve ever been made to feel optional, you may still carry that belief even when reality has changed. Social media doesn’t help. Everyone else’s filtered happiness, success, couple selfies, and “perfect” lives can trick you into feeling like you’re behind, lacking, or simply not wanted enough. Your own inner critic can stir the pot. Sometimes the feeling of being unwanted comes from within—low self-esteem, self-doubt, or the belief that you’re “too much” or “not enough.” What Feeling Unwanted Does to Us This emotion isn’t small. It can shape how we think, behave, and connect. You start doubting your worth. That inner monologue turns harsh and unforgiving. You shrink. You question everything. You isolate. When you feel like no one wants you around, it’s tempting to pull back to protect yourself. But that often creates more loneliness. Your mental health may take a hit. When the feeling lingers — anxiety, sadness, and overwhelm can move in. How to Overcome Feeling Unwanted (Starting Now) This isn’t an overnight fix, but it is  absolutely something you can move through. Here’s what helps: Call out the lies in your thoughts. Challenge the stories your brain tells you when you’re hurting. Swap the “I’m not wanted” narrative with reminders of your value — and yes, you do  have value. Talk to someone. A friend, a therapist, a trusted person — anyone who can reflect the truth back to you when you can’t see it. Practice self-care that’s real, not performative. Walks, rest, hobbies, saying no, sitting in the sun, journaling, reading something comforting, anything that reminds your nervous system that you matter. Be gentle with yourself. You wouldn't speak with cruelty to someone you love. Don’t do it to yourself. Set boundaries. Protect your energy. Move toward people who show up for you and away from people who consistently don’t. Grow into the version of yourself who knows their worth. Personal development, small goals, trying new things, and celebrating wins — these rebuild the foundation from the inside out. You’re not “too much.”You’re not forgettable. You’re not unlovable. You’re a human being who deserves connection — and someone out there absolutely wants what you bring to the world. Remember: you are wanted, valued, and worthy right now , not someday. And hey… we want you. We get it. 💛 Erin Time to Dish: Have you ever felt like someone really wanted you — and then they suddenly disappeared? What did that do to your heart and your confidence? How did you handle the emotional whiplash? Are you unsure what to feel when this happens? And most importantly: what can you build in your life that doesn’t rely on anyone else to validate you?

Let's be honest for a moment: in a world where everyone is constantly "hustling," "connected," and "accessible," the concept of downtime can seem... questionable. It feels like you should be doing something, organizing something, catching up on something, refining something, cleaning something, and anything except being idle. But here’s the truth no one tells you until you’ve worn yourself out five times in a year: Downtime isn’t a luxury — it’s a strategy. And if you know how to use it effectively, this quiet, still space between busy periods becomes the secret fuel that powers the best version of you. Taking a break helps everything inside you to relax—your thoughts, stress, nervous system, and creativity. By stepping back, even just a little, your mind gets the space it needs to reorganize. It’s like your brain hitting a small “refresh” button you didn’t realize it had. Here is the surprising part: intentionally incorporating downtime leads to noticeable improvements in your productivity, clarity, and confidence. How to Take Advantage of Your Downtime; Like It’s an Opportunity, Not an Accident 1. Let yourself get bored. Indeed, I mentioned it. Boredom is where breakthroughs originate. When your mind isn't preoccupied with responding, it begins to imagine. That's creativity calling — welcome it. 2. Reflect without judgment. How are you really doing? Where are you headed? What’s working? What’s draining you? Downtime is the moment when the truth finally gets loud enough to hear. 3. Do something restorative, not just distracting . Scrolling? That’s a distraction. A walk, a nap, journaling, reading a book, making something with your hands — those restore you. Choose what fills you, not what numbs you. 4. Reconnect with parts of yourself you’ve neglected. The playful side. The curious side. The relaxed side. The “perhaps I’ll explore that hobby I always claimed I was too busy for” side. They have missed you. 5. Let downtime be downtime. Don’t guilt-trip yourself into doing tasks “because you finally have a second.” You don’t owe productivity to anyone, especially not during your rest. This is the part most people forget: downtime is not you stepping away from your life . It’s you stepping into a better version of it. Upon returning to work, dating, parenting, creating, or any other demands of your life, you find yourself sharper, calmer, more grounded, and much more aligned. Downtime is where the magic brews. If no one’s given you permission to slow down, take a breath, and let yourself just be for a If no one’s given you permission to slow down, take a breath, and just be for a moment… Here it is. Your downtime is working for you even when you’re not actively doing anything. Use it. Enjoy it. Let it transform you a little. You’ve earned this pause moment. Here it is. Your downtime is working for you even when you’re not doing a thing. Use it. Enjoy it. Let it remake you a little. You’ve earned the pause. Now that you have read this, close the computer, turn off that phone, and PAUSE. xoxo Erin

Let’s be honest: dating in 2025 should come with a helmet and a waiver. Between ghosters, love-bombers, the emotionally allergic, and the ones who “aren’t looking for anything serious” but somehow want you to meet their mother… the whole thing can feel like a series of mildly traumatic episodes wrapped in the occasional glitter bomb. But here’s the thing we forget: we’ve also had some pretty incredible moments along the way. The kind that makes your friends lean in over cocktails.The kind you still smile about when you’re in line at Target.The kind you secretly replay even if it didn’t work out. And those stories? They’re worth sharing not because dating is perfect, but because sometimes it’s unexpectedly beautiful . Everyone Has “That One Story” We all have that one dating story that stands out from the rest — the date that felt like a scene from a movie, the conversation that flowed so easily it felt like fate, the night when everything just… clicked. Maybe it was a spontaneous road trip. Maybe it was someone who saw you — really saw you  — at a time you needed it most. Maybe it was a simple coffee date that reminded you what butterflies actually feel like. Your “best” dating story doesn’t have to end in a relationship. It just has to remind you that connection is real — and that your heart, even after everything it’s been through, still lights up. Why Sharing It Matters When you share your best dating story, you’re not bragging and you’re not being sentimental — you’re offering proof that: Great moments still exist. Humans can  show up. You’re capable of feeling hope again. And maybe, just maybe, you’re ready for more of that magic. Sharing your story is also a reminder to yourself: I’ve had joy before. I can have joy again. The Magic Is in the Details The look across the table.The joke that made you snort-laugh.The way the air felt warm, or the music matched the moment, or time just… slowed down for a second. We remember these things for a reason. They’re little bookmarks in the messy novel of dating — pages we flip back to when we need a spark. You Deserve More Moments Like That Your best dating story isn’t your peak. It’s not “the one that got away.”Think of it as a reminder — a preview — of what’s absolutely still possible. If someone once made you feel valued, excited, curious, safe, or downright breathtaking? There’s someone out there who will again… and maybe even better. So Tell Me… What’s Yours? Seriously. I want to hear it. The beautiful ones. The funny ones. The ones that healed something in you.The ones that still make you wonder: “How did that even happen?!” Drop it in the comments, DM me, whisper it into the void — whatever feels right. Because sharing your best dating story isn’t just storytelling…it’s reclaiming your romantic optimism, one memory at a time. And who knows? Your story might spark someone else’s hope, too.

Here’s the truth no one tells you after divorce: You don’t just get a “fresh start.” You get a reset button — but only if you’re brave enough to press it with intention.   Most of us step back into dating carrying old habits, hopes, expectations, and, undoubtedly, old fears. We say we want love, but often we don’t even know what that means for us anymore. Our lives have changed. We’ve changed. And yet we go out here dating like the old version of ourselves.   We are asking: What do you really want from your next dating experience and your next relationship?   Not what you’re supposed to want. Not what your friends think you should want. Not what your ex made you believe you could only have. And definitely not what social media tells you looks cute in a couple's selfie. What does your heart, body, soul, and sanity need right now? What kind of energy do you want walking into your life? What does love look like for the version of you that survived, healed, and rose again?   Do You Want Connection — or Companionship? There’s a difference. Connection is deep. Companionship is comforting. Both are valid. Some people want someone to text good morning. Some want someone to grow a life with. Both can be beautiful, but they require different levels of emotional energy, vulnerability, and time. What season are you in?   Are You Looking to Date… or Are You Looking to Heal? Listen, no judgment — but be honest with yourself. Sometimes we just want attention. Or a spark. Or a reminder that we’re still attractive and desirable. And that’s okay. But if you’re still bleeding from the wounds your last relationship left you with, don’t expect someone else to sew you up. Healing and dating can coexist — but know which one is leading.   What Behavior Is an Immediate “No”? We all have universal red flags. But what are the personal ones unique to your story? Maybe it’s an inconsistency. Maybe it’s someone who shuts down during conflict. Perhaps it’s someone who wants access to you but not accountability. Maybe it’s someone who can’t communicate, can’t apologize, or can’t show up. Your “no” list matters. It protects your peace.   What Behavior Is a Firm “Yes, Please”? Let’s flip it. What are the green flags you crave? Affection? Respect? Clear communication? A soft place to land? Someone who can handle your independence without shrinking or competing with it? Sometimes it’s not just the people you need to avoid, but also the people your heart lights up for whom you need to recognize and welcome.   What Kind of Effort Are You Actually Willing to Give? Everyone says they want a great relationship, but not everyone is ready to commit to one. So really ask yourself: Are you ready to be vulnerable again? Ready to communicate? Ready to risk disappointment? Ready to try? Or are you still in your cocoon phase, wanting the idea of love more than the practice of it? There’s no wrong answer — just an honest one.   What Version of Yourself Are You Bringing Into This New Chapter? This might be the biggest question of all. Dating after divorce isn’t about finding someone better. It’s about becoming someone wiser — and then attracting from that place. Are you dating out of fear? From hope? From loneliness? From excitement? From growth? Your 'why' matters just as much as your 'what'.   You Deserve Clarity. You Deserve Intention. You Deserve a Love Created for the Real You. The next relationship you build should be aligned with the person you are becoming, not the person you used to be. So ask yourself: What do I really want? What energy do I want to experience? What kind of relationship would make me feel safe, seen, and supported? Your answer doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. It just has to feel true. And that's where your next beautiful beginning starts.   xoxo

Let’s take a moment to reflect on the journey to emotional disconnection isn’t an abrupt event; it unfolds gradually. It may begin with a missed conversation, an unvoiced apology, or a “I’m fine” that doesn’t ring true. Before long, the person who once shared laughter, dreams, and deep emotions with you becomes quiet. They remain physically present, but you can sense the distance. When someone shuts down emotionally in a marriage, the warmth begins to fade. Hugs become brief, conversations diminish, and it may feel like the relationship is tilting toward one side. You make efforts to bridge the gap: you talk, you try, you hold onto hope; however, it often seems like you’re just echoing into an empty canyon. At this point, it becomes clear: you cannot inspire someone to reconnect if they’re not willing to engage in the relationship. It’s essential to remember that when your partner withdraws, it doesn't mean you have to diminish yourself to fit into their silence. You don’t need to mirror their coldness. You can still embrace kindness, understanding, and self-respect. Here's the bright side: stone cannot feel, nurture, or give love, but you have the power to do all those things. You can choose to preserve your inner light, even if theirs has dimmed. You can walk away from the heaviness of the situation with your head held high, knowing you did everything within your power. At times, love means staying, and at other times, it means recognizing when staying may only weigh you down further. So, if you find yourself in a marriage where you’re the sole one reaching out, still feeling deeply, remember this: you don’t have to match their emotional withdrawal. You possess the strength to move forward. You can heal and cultivate a life that is vibrant and full of joy once more. . They may have turned to stone, but you? You became unbreakable. xoxo Erin Great song to go along: https://youtu.be/g26V2QDuEo0?si=UDG1qVsZWZM06P7Z

Today, we honor the courageous, independent, and confident individuals who understand that being single is not a burden — it’s a season of empowerment . It’s the liberty to shape your life precisely as you desire, without concessions, apologies, or a shared Netflix account. Gone are the days when being single meant “something’s missing.” Please. Being single means you’re not accepting less than you deserve . It’s about learning, growing, exploring, and knowing exactly who you are — before you ever think about sharing your fries (or your heart) with anyone else. Let's clarify something: being single doesn't equate to being lonely .  It signifies that you've set your standards so high that not everyone is allowed into your life. And that, my friends, is truly impressive. Here’s why being single is the ultimate power move: You answer to no one.  No explaining your decisions, no debates over where to eat, and no “let’s compromise” when you don’t want to. Your plans. Your peace. Your pace. You glow differently.  People who choose themselves shine in a way that’s magnetic. Confidence looks good on you — and everyone can see it. You flirt freely.  The world is your playground. Flirt with the barista, make small talk with the stranger in line, and enjoy that knowing smile that says, “I’m good either way.” You set the standard.  Being single allows you to get crystal clear on what you will  and won’t  tolerate. You’re not waiting for the right person — you’re becoming the right person. National Singles Day isn't about waiting for someone to come along and transform your life into something magical. You are the magic yourself. It's about those Saturday mornings when you wake up to a quiet house because it's your space, and you cherish it that way. It's about treating yourself to dinner and enjoying dessert all to yourself. It's about that impromptu trip you decided to book simply because you had the freedom to do so. So go on: purchase the outfit, uncork the wine, and raise a glass to your amazing self. Treat yourself. Laugh often. Share that selfie. You’re not just part of something; you’re a complete masterpiece. Being single isn't just a waiting period before the "real thing." It is the real thing. This is your time — your freedom, your peace, your time to shine. This evening, lift your glass, everyone, and celebrate the finest, bravest, and most stunning relationship of your life — the one with yourself . Because while love may come and go, self-love? That’s forever.

We hear it all the time: "People don’t change," or "People truly can not change." Or the hopeful version: "People can change if they really want to." Somewhere between these beliefs lies an uncomfortable truth: many people don’t really change—they settle. They adjust, shrink, tolerate, and make peace with a life that doesn’t quite fit, all while telling themselves they’re "fine." But are they? Change vs. Settling: What’s the Difference? Change requires effort, discomfort, self-awareness, and action. Settling relies on avoidance, fear, and the hope that accepting "good enough" will protect us from pain. Change says: "I deserve more, and I’m willing to stretch for it." Settling whispers: "This is probably as good as it gets… right?" One is growth; the other, resignation. Why Do People Settle? Because staying the same feels easier than becoming more. People settle when: Fear is louder than desire Comfort becomes a cage They stop believing in the possibility They value perception over peace However, when someone changes. How do you know? Real change isn’t just a quote on Instagram or a late-night promise. It looks like: Choosing truth over habit Breaking your own patterns Healing instead of repeating Taking accountability, not assigning blame Outgrowing stifling environments Intentionally rewriting your narrative Change is messy. There are setbacks and resistance. But on the other side, there’s clarity, alignment, and self-respect. We hope those we love will wake up one day changed: more loving, more self-aware, more emotionally available. But change isn’t something you can wish into someone. It only lasts if they choose it themselves. Sometimes, the bravest thing is accepting someone for who they are now, instead of waiting for who they could become. Consider these questions—don’t be afraid to ask yourself or others: Are you growing, or are you dimming your light to make things easier? Are you expanding, or settling because growth disrupts comfort? Are you truly living, or just going through the motions? If you change, you might: Outgrow people you once felt inseparable from Let go of dreams that no longer fit Disappoint others by choosing yourself But staying the same when your soul craves more is its own kind of heartbreak. You’re allowed to want more: love, joy, passion, adventure, connection, depth. You’re allowed to evolve, even if no one else is. Changing doesn’t mean you failed at who you were. It means you’re honoring who you’re becoming. People don't just change by accident—and they don’t settle overnight. But every day, with every choice, we move closer to one or the other. We would love to hear your story and share it on our website in the contact section.

There’s something beautifully ironic about adulthood — we spend our early years surrounded by people, yet as we get older, our circles often shrink. Between careers, family, moves, and life’s challenges (like divorce), it can suddenly feel like the world has grown quieter. But here’s the truth: it’s never too late to make friends — real friends who understand you, laugh with you, and show up when it counts. As adults, we carry more — more experiences, responsibilities, routines, and sometimes, more caution. The spontaneity of “Want to hang out?” from childhood has been replaced by “Let’s find a date that works in three weeks.” However, that doesn’t mean connection isn’t possible; it simply means it requires intention. The best friendships are born in places where you feel most yourself. Love hiking? Join a local walking group or outdoor club. Enjoy art? Take a pottery class, attend gallery nights, or volunteer at a community event. Want to grow personally? Book clubs, yoga studios, and workshops are filled with people seeking similar experiences: growth, laughter, and a sense of belonging. When you show up authentically, you attract people who match your energy. Not every conversation will lead to a lifelong friend — and that’s okay. A friendly smile at the coffee shop, a chat with another dog owner at the park, or complimenting someone’s outfit can open unexpected doors. The first step is to be open to connection, even in simple moments. There are numerous apps and online platforms designed for forming platonic friendships. Try: Meetup — for local events and interest-based gatherings. Bumble BFF — like dating apps, but for finding friends. Facebook or Reddit groups — from local women’s circles to hobby-focused communities. Don’t underestimate the power of virtual connections; many lifelong friendships begin with a simple “me too.” Sometimes, friendship doesn’t need to be found; it needs to be rekindled. Reach out to an old coworker, a college friend, or that neighbor you used to share laughs with. Life happens, but reconnecting can feel like a warm return to something familiar and comforting. Making new friends later in life requires courage — putting yourself out there, risking awkwardness, and sometimes facing rejection. But friendship, like love, is worth the vulnerability. Keep showing up, keep saying yes, and remember: your people are out there, looking for you too. Friendship in your 40s, 50s, or beyond isn’t about quantity — it’s about quality. It’s about finding people who see you for who you are today, not who you were years ago. You’ve grown and evolved, and the right friends will celebrate that journey with you.

Happy. Halloween Week! We hope you have a fun and festive time! Enjoy our little video of some sppoky ideas for singles

Some of us are there, some of us have been there, and I have seen this situation waaaay too many times. It’s hard enough watching your ex move on. But when they start dating a control freak? Oh, honey, that’s a whole new level of entertainment and concern. Because while you’re over here breathing free air, healing, and rediscovering your peace, they’re diving headfirst into a relationship that feels more like a dictatorship. All the signs are there; You know the type. The one who manages every detail. Checks phones, filters friendships, controls the narrative, and keeps tabs like it’s a full-time job. You can spot those types a mile away. Suddenly, your ex isn’t showing up to mutual friend gatherings anymore. Their new partner comments on everything.  It’s all a little too polished, a little too curated, like someone’s pulling the strings. And there you are, sipping your coffee, watching it unfold, wondering,  “Do they even realize what they’ve gotten themselves into?” Let's say...It's not your circus anymore . When your ex starts dating someone controlling, your instinct might be to feel sorry for them or even a little smug. (Both are valid, by the way.) But your real power move? Staying out of it. Control freaks thrive on reaction. They love being compared, noticed, and validated. Please do not give them that satisfaction. You have already lived the lesson they are about to learn that control is just insecurity dressed up as authority. And the only person you can ever truly control is yourself. Watching this dynamic from the outside can actually be healing. You start to realize how much calmer your life is without the constant tension or the need to walk on eggshells. You recognize your own growth that you no longer need to fix, rescue, or manage anyone else’s mess. You see the chaos and feel nothing but gratitude that you’ve outgrown it. Let them play their power games. You are headed or have found your peace. You do not need to expose, warn, or get involved. You just keep building your life, loving your freedom, and minding your own damn business. Because the most significant flex isn’t revenge or gossip, it’s peace, boundaries, and a life that doesn’t need permission to shine. So, when your ex dates a control freak, don’t worry. The universe has a way of teaching lessons we couldn’t, and you? You’ve already graduated.  #DivorceeDish #Boundaries #PeaceOverDrama #LetThem #LetThemLearn #watchthecircus #pickupthepopcorn

No one tells you that you can still love someone and know it’s time to walk away. Divorce isn’t always born out of hatred or betrayal. Sometimes, it’s born of courage —the courage to admit that love alone isn’t enough to make a marriage work. You can love someone deeply and still recognize that your values, needs, or paths no longer align. You can care for them and still crave something more — peace, growth, freedom, or a sense of self that got lost along the way. That realization doesn’t make you cold or heartless. It makes you honest. Love is powerful, but it isn’t a cure-all. It can’t fix broken communication, restore trust that’s worn thin, or carry the weight of two people growing in opposite directions. Sometimes the most loving thing you can do for both of you is to let go before love turns into resentment. Choosing divorce when there’s still love takes strength. It’s the kind of strength that comes from self-awareness and self-respect. It’s saying, I can love you and still know this isn’t right for me anymore.  That is not failure, that’s evolution. You’re not walking away from love; you’re walking toward truth. You’re choosing to believe that love can exist without ownership, that endings can be respectful, and that healing doesn’t mean forgetting. You can honor what was beautiful while freeing yourself for what’s next. So if you’re standing in that uncertain space — still loving, still hurting, still unsure — know this:  You’re not broken for choosing yourself. You’re brave for stepping into the unknown. And one day, you’ll look back and realize that this wasn’t the end of love, it was the beginning of loving yourself in a whole new way. It is so tricky, however, sometimes it is for the best