Hey Jealousy: Never Be Jealous

You remember, or at least a lot of us do. It is the epic hit by the Gin Blossoms, "Hey Jealousy. " It was and is a great jam to blast while thinking of relationships and just to bust out in song. However, as we go through various relationships, divorce, and more, we realize jealousy is not healthy for you, nor will it help you heal.

Whether it’s your ex flaunting their new relationship on social media, your friend's third engagement ring or even that stranger's perfectly filtered beach vacay pics—you are not behind. You are not lacking. You are not in a competition. You must remember this and focus on your life.

Jealousy is a Distraction

Jealousy takes your attention off your life and places it on someone else’s highlight reel. That’s the energy you could use to fall in love with yourself, book a trip, start a passion project, or—let’s be honest—binge-watch something deliciously trashy without guilt.

Your story is unfolding exactly how it’s supposed to. It doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s. Someone else's engagement doesn't cancel your growth, and their curated joy doesn't erase your real healing.

The Truth About Their “Perfect Life”

Spoiler alert: what you’re seeing is curated. The matching outfits, the “surprise” proposal, the smiling selfies? That’s the surface. You don't know what’s happening when the camera’s off. You know what’s real? You. The fact that you’ve made it through heartbreak, divorce, and nights that felt longer than your marriage—that's badass.

You’re not in a race. You’re in a revival.

Jealousy vs. Inspiration

Instead of letting that pang of jealousy fester, flip it. What are you craving when you feel jealous? Love? Adventure? Confidence? Take that signal as a nudge, not a punishment. Channel it into action. Book that solo dinner reservation. Say yes to the blind date. Take salsa lessons (yes, even if you have two left feet).

You Already Have the Sauce

Girl, you’ve got it. The vibe. The resilience. The humor. The you-ness that nobody else can replicate. And if someone doesn’t see that? Let them keep scrolling.

Being jealous is like drinking expired milk—unnecessary, bad for your soul, and just... ew. Instead, wake up every morning knowing you don’t need to keep up; you just need to keep going.

So Say It With Me:

Hey, jealousy...You can sit this one out; let me learn not to be jealous and embrace my world daily.