Healing Is Not Linear (It’s More Like a Drunk Squirrel)

Somewhere along the way, being single turned into a group project filled with unsolicited opinions. “Are you seeing anyone?” “You’ll meet someone when you stop looking.” “My cousin’s friend met her husband at Target.” Thank you, very helpful. I’ll go ahead and add “romantic destiny, aisle 12” to my to‑do list.

But here’s the truth no one talks about enough: being single isn’t a problem to solve. It’s a season to survive, enjoy, and occasionally laugh through—one day at a time.

The Art of the 24-Hour Commitment:

When you’re single, “taking things day by day” isn’t a sign of a lack of ambition.

It’s a survival tactic.

Some days you’re thriving:

• You meal prep.

• You work out.

• You feel emotionally stable and possibly unstoppable.

Other days:

• You eat cereal for dinner.

• You cry over a song you weren’t even dating.

• You consider texting someone who should remain in the Witness Protection Program.

Try to think about this: you don’t need a five-year plan. You need a plan for today. And sometimes, that plan is simply: don’t spiral.

Single Math Is Different

When you’re in a relationship, people ask, “Where is this going?”

When you’re single, the math changes:

• Did I get out of bed? ✔️

• Did I answer one email? ✔️

• Did I resist the urge to romanticize a stranger who held the door open? Mostly ✔️

That’s progress. We don’t measure success in milestones anymore—we measure it in emotional stability and clean laundry.

Healing Is Not Linear (It’s More Like a Drunk Squirrel)

One day, you feel healed. The next day, you’re mad about something that happened three relationships ago. That’s not failure. That’s being human.

Taking things day by day means:

• Letting yourself feel it without overanalyzing it.

• Not forcing closure just to feel “caught up.”

• Accepting that healing shows up differently on different days.

Some days you’re reflective and calm. Other days, you’re angry and googling “why do men” at 11:47 p.m. Both are valid.

You’re Not Behind—You’re Just Living Offline

Being single often feels like everyone else got a secret timeline you missed. Engagements, weddings, babies, anniversaries… meanwhile, you’re celebrating:

• Canceling plans

• A good night’s sleep

• Not sharing your snacks

But life isn’t a race. It’s a weird, winding path where sometimes the win is simply not settling for the wrong thing. Taking things day by day reminds you that your life is happening right now, not someday when someone else shows up.

Small Joys Are the Whole Point

When you stop obsessing over “what’s next,” you start noticing: Morning coffee that actually tastes good

• Laughing way too hard at your own jokes is peace instead of chaos, I say to myself I'm so funny all the time :)

• The freedom to change your mind without explanation

• These aren’t filler moments. They’re the main event.

Today Is Enough

You don’t need to have it all figured out. You don’t need to be “ready” for anything. You don’t need to know who’s coming next.

You just need to show up today.

Because some days, being single means growth. Some days it means rest. Some days it means eating dessert first. And honestly? That sounds like a pretty solid life to me; take life, one day at a time. 💛 or not... You do you and do it unapologetically.

xoxo

Erin

and for your entertainment: A drunk squirrel: