Dramarama.
Drama is not a good thing. Avoid it at all costs, especially if you're in a relationship. Drama can cause arguments and breakups, which is nothing anyone wants. Drama can be caused by over-texting and constant questioning of the relationship. If your partner (or you) texts too much or asks too many questions about where your relationship is going, it can lead to unnecessary conflict between you that could have been avoided had they just stopped texting so much (or at all).
No one wants drama in their relationships. Drama is a sign of insecurity, immaturity, and poor communication skills. If you find yourself involved in drama, it's likely because you lack confidence or have trouble communicating with your partner(s). So, if you're experiencing relationship drama, take some time to reflect on what has happened in your relationship lately. Ask yourself:
Is there something that needs to be addressed?
Are there areas where improvement could be made?
Do both parties feel respected and heard by each other?
Do they feel like they have enough alone time together or with friends/family on their terms, not because one person feels pressured by another into doing so (which would indicate an imbalance between independence vs. interdependence)?
These questions can help identify potential issues before they become serious problems later.
Ultimately, the best way to avoid drama is by being honest and upfront with your partner. If you have something to say, then say it in person. Always be open-minded and listen carefully when your partner has something meaningful on their mind; if they keep asking the same questions, please note they are not hearing what they want, so that they may bug you; please do not cave, be honest.
Neediness.
Neediness is a form of insecurity. You're scared to lose the person you love and are trying to convince them that you are worth keeping around. This can be done through gifts, compliments, and other gestures to show your partner how much they mean to you. However, it also comes with its own set of problems:
· Neediness makes your partner feel guilty for not giving enough back in return or making them feel like they have failed at being a good partner if they don't do something special for you as well (which only perpetuates this cycle).
· When someone feels needed by another person too much, it can make them feel like their self-worth depends on what their partner thinks about them, which isn't unhealthy.
Over-texting
For God’s sake, put the phone down because being a text freak is a sure sign of insecurity. However (and I mean a big however), it can be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on how you look at it. If you over-text your partner because they want more attention than they give you, it’s a good sign that they care about you and want to stay connected. But this could be an issue if they're insecure and need constant reassurance that the relationship is delicate. It might even mean that there are other problems in the relationship that need addressing before things get too serious between the two of you.
Constant questioning of the relationship.
It would be best if you were asked questions about your relationship. It's normal, and it's good to know that you have someone who cares enough about you to ask these questions. But there are ways of asking that are better than others. The best way to get answers is in person--and this goes both ways: if he/she is questioning whether they want to be with you, they should be able to answer those questions in person as well. If they can't do that, maybe it isn't worth being with them anymore.
It can also be helpful for everyone involved if both parties have some time in between when one person asks their question and when another responds with theirs; it gives each party time (and space), so they're not always on edge waiting for an answer from their partner every day or every hour on the hour! And no matter how much we love our phones, texting isn't ideal for communicating essential details like "I think maybe we shouldn't see each other anymore" or "I'm getting bored/lonely/feel trapped by this relationship."
Stay strong,
Erin