Does your life feel chaotic all the time? Do you find yourself asking yourself, “How do I find peace in the chaos?” Well, I wonder no further because I’m sure I’ve found the answer in the words: Manifest it.
Over the past two and a half years (and counting), life has been challenging and chaotic for us all. Starting with the biggest s## show of our lifetimes, in most cases, the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic. Add to that the constant negative news influx (turn it off if you can), inflation and recession worries, violence, and fear wherever we go (I don’t know about you, but I’ve had practically everything delivered or have done curbside pickup since March 2020, damn the cost), and the state of the world in general.
Add in the realization that we’re all divorced, throw in your daily/weekly/monthly schedule, whether planned out or in flux, and you have a recipe for feeling almost entirely out of control. I say almost because there are some beneficial ways to find the flow in the madness, and here are my top ones: · Know your boundaries; · Make clear and concise communication flows with your ex or whoever may be mediating separation-induced communications; · Rest (and rest and rest, for heaven’s sake): Your body needs a break from all the duties on your plate, including work, childcare, cooking, cleaning, etc., etc., etc. · Spend time with friends: Escape with your peeps, have a glass of wine (or two, wink wink), and share stories…I promise you’ll find you’re not the only one that needs a buddy break. · Practice box breathing, also known as four-square breathing, which involves exhaling to a count of four, holding your lungs empty for a four-count, inhaling at the same pace, and holding air in your lungs for a count of four before exhaling and beginning the pattern anew; · Run – I repeat, run, do not walk – away from drama, you are not available, and your body doesn’t need it; · Take a timeout: It’s OK to take a day and do absolutely nothing, and I mean nothing, besides eating and drinking (but try to avoid day drinking If you know what I mean); · Start and keep a journal to clear your mind…I’m here to tell you that my journaling – even if it’s just two minutes per entry – has helped me immensely; · And I’ve saved this one for last because I think it’s the hardest to do: Manifest what you want your life to look like and make yourself feel it has already happened. Period.
Living in chaos will eventually take you down and out, which we cannot allow at this stage in our lives. You’ll feel drained and even ache from the exhaustion (full disclosure: been there, done it, continue to do it). Even if you only choose two of the above, make them part of your day. OK? Promise? Peace & love, Erin