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Friends, or something more?

I'd be 99% sure most of you have run into this situation: A friend has turned lover or possibly your next lover.

I feel I am in a cycle with someone I know who's a great friend, but my heart keeps going pitty-pat every time I think about him. I'm very unsure if that's good or bad. We see each other more often than not, and nothing happens, which leads me to believe we are “just friends.” This person has said he values our friendship and doesn’t want to ruin that. Fair enough, right?

And while I completely agree with him, we hooked up on and off many moons ago throughout our late teens. A few years later, he dropped this bomb on me when I was married and pregnant with my twins: "I wish I had grabbed you years ago." Really bad timing! Now I find myself divorced and single and not a man in sight. I am mostly all right with that, but it would be nice to have someone to hang out with on nights I don't have my kids or go out. I mean, we are all human and want a connection.

Cue the Carrie Bradshaw in me: Wishing and wanting, though not making a move. Even one of my daughters was like mom, make your move -ha! But in all seriousness, it's tough when you don't know what the other person is thinking. Relationships take time, that’s for sure, but how much longer should I wait?

Tell me!


Questions for you:

  • Have you ever felt this way about someone?

  • Did you make a move or talk about your feelings?

  • Or were you waiting for the other to make that initial move?


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