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Ghosting is not just for Halloween

Have you been ghosted yet? Do you know what that stands for nowadays?


Defined: Ghosting is a relatively new colloquial dating term that refers to abruptly cutting off contact with someone without giving that person any warning or explanation for doing so. Even when the ghosted person reaches out to re-initiate contact or gain closure, they're met with silence.


Well, let me tell you, I have been ghosted a couple of times, and it is awful, but it also tells

me there are people you would never want to mingle with long or short-term.

Both men and women do it when they may find out something about each other they dislike or are just blatantly not interested.


This leads me back to why can adults not communicate. When love or lust is new, there is a constant flow of communication beyond texting. If you enjoy time together, you may talk on the phone (Wow, what a concept- pick up the phone and hear the voice of someone you are digging for). Those were the good old days when they would call, and you were so excited to answer, and you may have spent hours on the phone or walking in the neighborhood.

Today is about the “text” or social media/dating message applications. You could be talking and vibing with someone one day, and the next, it's like you never existed. Hence the word ghosting.


In a recent ghost situation, I had someone say, “Oh, I don't always look at my phone in my pocket when I’m working” – ok fair enough; then there is silence. I said, “Can I ask you a question?” A: “ Of course” Q: “Are you interested in pursuing something or not?” A: SILENCE, CRICKETS. Please note that this person initiated the connection.


Dating is hard enough without someone just disappearing on you; even though this indicates a great sign for you to answer, you know- You can do better!


Additional resources are below:

Here is an article about “ghosting” from Newsweek


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