Here's something to think about & ultimately relish or be so busy you can not think about anything. After a divorce, you may find that you are going to be your best company. This luxury will require some self yourself compassion & taking time for yourself, but it can be GLORIOUS.
This past weekend when I didn't have my kids & had no plans, I tried to be a superwoman by doing house projects, working on my Mac, cleaning out my closets & watching movies. However, I did not get enough rest or take great care of myself.
It wasn't that I was trying to get stuff off my mind; I was just in 'go mode,' & now that my kids are coming back to my house, I have a cold & am exhausted. My point is: DO NOT DO THAT.
When you do have time alone & are at the point where you enjoy spending time with yourself, you can set some goals. But do not overdo them. It would be best if you took care of yourself, your health, and your well-being. Not so simple all at once, you say? Well, pick one of these:
1) Put your phone away & tell only the most essential people in your world you are detaching for a day (believe me, if they really need you, they'll find you;
2) Stay off email & social media for 24-48 hours;
3) Schedule a massage, pedicure, or manicure;
4) Take naps – you do not have to sleep all day long but do not feel one bit of guilt for just letting go;
5) Hire some help (if possible) to clean & help make food; When your kids ask what's for dinner, you can pull out something (make your world easier);
6) Have a friend over & reminisce about fun memories or create new ones;
7) Take a bath & soak while listening to your favorite tunes;
8) Designate tasks you do not have time for & you'll be pleasantly surprised how many people will jump in to support you;
9) Schedule time to block out your schedule & do nothing...zilch...zero.
Just because you sometimes have urges to be busy all the time, slow your roll, people. I have learned from many experiences that it's not good for your mental or physical state. Take care of yourself!
Onward & Upward!