You can do plenty of things to keep from texting your ex, like reaching out to someone else for help or getting into another relationship. But if you're determined not to text them and don't want them in your life, follow these simple steps:
Don't text your ex; wait 2-4 minutes and think about the text before you hit send. Texting is not an excellent way to communicate, it's too easy to get lost in translation, and you may need help to understand what your ex is trying to say. If you text, make sure it isn't a drunken text message or one you will regret later when sober.
If you need to reach out, call their phone or send an email. Texting is not an excellent way to communicate with someone who has broken up with you or left your life. If you text, make sure it's short and to the point.
If they don't respond right away (or ever), leave them alone until they've had time to move on from this relationship that ended for both of you.
Do not text or message them when upset or angry with them. That will only make things worse.
Do not drunk text or message your ex.
It's a bad idea, and it will make things worse.
You can get in trouble for sending texts while intoxicated. You might even say things you don't mean or remember later, leading to future misunderstandings and fights between the two of you.
It's a good idea to text your ex during business hours. After all, they're an adult, right? They can make their own choices. But the truth is that there are many reasons why they might not want to engage with you at that moment. They could be busy with work or have plans with friends or family members who don't know about you yet (if you broke up). They may also be focused on hobbies or passions that take up most of their time--and if so, texting will probably not help them feel less stressed out about those things.
If they are trying to reach out to you, give them space and time before answering their call or responding to their message. This way, they will know that you still care about them, but not so much that you seem desperate for their attention.
If they are trying to reach out to you, give them space and time before answering their call or responding to their message. This way, they will know that you still care about them, but not so much that you seem desperate for their attention.
For example: if your ex texted "Hey" and then didn't follow up with another message, then it might be best not to respond right away because this could lead to a conversation where both parties are trying to get the other person back, which can lead down a negative path where neither party gets what they want (i.e., closure).
It's a simple rule, but it's one that many people seem to need help following. If you're thinking of reaching out to them, ask yourself if there's another way to contact them instead of sending a text message. If the answer is yes (and it should be), then reach out in any other way possible--email, calling their phone, or even instant messaging them on social media platforms like Facebook Messenger or WhatsApp if they'll accept your friend request (and if not, consider unfriending).
These tips will help you avoid the pitfalls of texting your ex!
Restrain my friends, Restrain,
Erin