Timing is Everything; Do You Think Your Time Is More Valuable Than Mine?

Love Me on My Time

One of the hardest lessons after divorce isn’t about heartbreak, but it is about time.

Time to heal.Time to rebuild.Time to figure out what actually feels good for you again.

Time stops being something you waste. It becomes sacred. Every moment you give someone is a choice, not an obligation.

And that’s why it hits differently when someone shows up only when it’s convenient for them.

You know the type. They call you on their commute, but never when you actually need them.

They text at 10 p.m. because they suddenly “miss you,” but can’t seem to find time for coffee on a Sunday. They disappear for a week, and then casually drop a “hey stranger” like nothing happened.

Let’s be clear, that’s not a connection. That’s convenience. And after a divorce, you start to see those patterns faster. You begin to recognize who’s genuinely interested and who's just looking for attention on their timeline. You stop confusing effort with crumbs.

Because communication that only happens when it’s easy isn’t communication; it’s control.

When someone only reaches out when it suits them, what they’re really saying is: “My needs matter more than yours. “My comfort matters more than consistency. “My time is valuable, yours is flexible.”

But here’s the truth: it’s not.

We all have busy schedules, responsibilities, and emotional limits. The difference is in how we prioritize people. If you really want someone in your life, you don’t make them chase your availability, and you make space for them. You find time with them, not around them.

After my divorce, I promised myself something simple: I would never again fight for a space in someone’s calendar. I will never again apologize for expecting presence, not convenience.

Because my time is precious, my peace is priceless. If you want to know me, respect both.

Don’t show up when you’re lonely. Show up when it matters. Don’t reach out. Don’t think your time is more valuable because I’m the one who seems strong enough to wait. I’m not waiting for your message. I believe we had a connection.

Love me on my time, the time I’ve built with intention, healing, laughter, and self-respect.

Because that’s where authentic connection starts: in effort, not in excuses.

If someone only shows up when it’s convenient, they’re not showing up for you; they’re showing up for themselves. And that’s not a connection; that’s ego.

So stop accepting half-time affection from part-time people. You’ve rebuilt your world, don’t hand over your peace to someone who only clocks in when it’s easy.

Message me because you are thinking of me or not at all.

Please, friends, if you are doing this to someone, it's not fair; we are all old enough to communicate and be real.