THERAPY: One of the most important things you can do for yourself. Period.
There's a heckuva lot of buzz about mental health these days - how could there not be with a pandemic, inflation & how it's affecting all of us? And here at Divorcee Dish, we're getting a lot of input & inquiries about your mental health right now. We all know we all need it, especially if you're going through a separation and divorce.
Here's my honest take: Once you're ready to tap into it & embrace it, your mental health will give you clarity & help you recover from the harsh realities that often divorce barrages.
Full disclosure: I've been in therapy for over 25 years; I deal with anxiety & depression. I simply needed weekly, sometimes two times a week, treatment. And it saved my life. My therapist is one of my best teachers & biggest champions in helping me cope with minor and significant issues. She makes me FEEL confident and resilient and consistently works with me to help bring peace to my world. Whew!
However, not everyone wants to admit they need mental health help. That scares me sometimes, and I worry that people put up an “I am so strong front” and then crash, and their minds and bodies tell them, "nope, not today."
LISTEN, listen & listen to your body and your mind. You have to recover from divorce, and your family needs time to transition; to do that, you have to take care of yourself.
If you are not in therapy and unsure how to begin, there are many resources for you. Some psychologists specialize in divorce & family therapy or individual therapy for various topics. I wholeheartedly recommend it. I PROMISE there is absolutely no stigma attached to reaching out for help.
Talk it out with yourself, your bestie, whoever. You'll be amazed how much better you feel when you speak out loud about your situation and do not keep it all buried inside. Remember, at the end of the day, YOU have the power and strength to heal emotionally, physically, and mentally.
And just to put things in perspective, as you transition from married to a single life, there are a lot of surprises along the way (good and bad). Wanna be the rock star of your world as you trek the single terrain?
Ask yourself these 3 questions & give an honest answer:
1) How can you benefit from therapy?
2). Do you currently journal?
3) Do you have friends and family that have great therapists?
I can't wait to hear back from you!