What Is True Love?

We all may or may not have had TRUE LOVE in our worlds. We hear about it in movies, read it in books, and daydream over coffee or cocktails with friends. But when it comes down to it, what is true love? Is it butterflies? Fireworks?

That “can’t eat, can’t sleep” kind of passion that sweeps you off your feet? Maybe. But if you’ve been through heartbreak (and let’s be honest, if you’re here, you probably have), you start to see that true love isn’t always wrapped in grand gestures or perfect Instagram posts. It’s something much deeper. Something real.

This song truly defines the essence of #TrueLove / P!nk 2012

True Love is… Comfortable

True love doesn’t always feel like a rollercoaster—it feels like home. It’s the calm after the storm. It’s knowing someone sees you exactly as you are—flaws, fears, quirks, and all—and stays. True love doesn’t need to impress you. It just is.

True Love is… Choosing Every Day

Forget the fairy tales that end at “happily ever after.” Real love isn’t just something you fall into; it’s something you choose repeatedly. Even when it’s hard, especially when it’s hard, true love is staying when it’s easier to walk away, showing up when it’s uncomfortable, and working through the messy stuff together.

True Love is… Respectful

It’s not about control, games, or manipulation. It’s about honoring each other’s boundaries, listening deeply, and making space for growth. True love doesn’t demand you shrink. It celebrates your evolution.

True Love is… Safe

It’s not constant anxiety. It’s not checking your phone 50 times wondering if they’ll text back. It’s not walking on eggshells. It’s a safe harbor. True love feels like trust. It feels like, “I’ve got you”—and knowing they mean it.

True Love is… Two Whole People

It’s not “you complete me.” You’re already whole. True love is two complete individuals who want to walk through life together, not because they need to, but because they genuinely choose to.

After divorce, we often question everything we thought we knew about love. That’s okay. It’s normal. Divorce is a hard reset, allowing you to redefine what love means for you.

So, what is true love? Maybe it’s not something you find. Perhaps it’s something you build. Slowly. Honestly. Imperfectly. And maybe, just maybe, it starts with the most essential kind of love of all: the one you give to yourself.

xo

Erin