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Why do you lose people you love?



You've probably heard the saying, "Lost people are hard to find." That's true, but it doesn't mean losing someone you love is impossible. It can happen for any number of reasons, but these are some of the most common ones:


There are so many reasons why people lose people they love. The person you love may have changed, and you didn't recognize it until it was too late. You may have changed and only been aware of your transformation once it was too late to save the relationship. You may not be on the same page anymore, have different priorities or goals, or may even be having difficulty communicating with each other!


The bottom line is that there's no way around this: if someone is important enough to us that we're grieving over them when they leave our lives? Then they should've been important enough for us to fight harder than we did when things started going south because if all else fails, we'll still have each other.


One of the most obvious reasons is that we make some mistakes when we're younger, and then we grow up and realize it wasn't a good idea to do those things in the first place.

One of the most obvious reasons is that we make some mistakes when we're younger, and then we grow up and realize it wasn't a good idea to do those things in the first place.

It isn't easy to let go of your past when you feel like something was taken away. But sometimes, letting go of the past is necessary for your sanity and happiness.


We could change our minds about the people in our lives, but sometimes that only happens in time.


The reality is that we don't get to choose who stays in our lives. People leave us for a variety of reasons: they move away, they get married and have kids, their interests change, or they stop liking us.


The good news is that you can change your mind about the people in your life--but sometimes that only happens in time. Sometimes, it may never happen (and I'm not just talking about love).


Another reason is that people have different goals than you do. This can lead to a great divide between you and the person you love because you have yet to take the time to ask them about why they think so differently from you.


Another reason is that people have different goals than you do. This can lead to a great divide between you and the person you love because you have yet to take the time to ask them about why they think so differently from you.


You may feel like it's all about what YOU want, but you will have a conflict if your loved one has different ideas about what makes life worth living. If this happens often enough, one or both of your goals will become non-negotiable for both parties involved to achieve peace between them (and sometimes even then).


A third reason is that we often get caught up in our own lives and neglect others who used to be essential to us. It's easy to stop reaching out because it's too much work, especially if everyone has changed so much since high school ended or college graduation day arrived.


A third reason is that we often get caught up in our own lives and neglect others who used to be essential to us. It's easy to stop reaching out because it's too much work, especially if everyone has changed so much since high school ended or college graduation day arrived.

People change over time; they have new priorities, friends, and interests that take precedence over keeping up with the acquaintances they made in the past. You may have also changed: perhaps you've started a family or moved away from where your childhood friend lives now that they got married.


It's also possible that one of you isn't interested anymore--maybe this person has found someone else through online dating sites such as eHarmony or Match? Or there was never any chemistry between them from the start, but both parties were too polite/politically correct/polite (take your pick) to say something now...


The last one is simple -- sometimes there's nothing left to say after everything that has been said already, even if none of it was lovely or kind!


For your relationships to grow and thrive, you need to make sure that the two of you are talking about things the right way.


It's easy to become accustomed to saying things that aren't very nice or kind -- especially if it's something we say often. We can get so wrapped up in our lives and forget about the people who were once crucial in ours!


We hope this list has been helpful for you. We know that losing someone can be difficult, but we also believe in the power of friendship and love. We want everyone to feel connected with those around them so that their lives are filled with joy instead of sorrow!


Peace Out,


Erin


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Did they come back into your life in a good way?

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