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And they can not text you back--- WHAT?

I'm sure you've been there: You text someone, and they don't respond. Then, you wait and decide it's time to give up. But then you wonder...why did they ignore me? Were they just busy? Was there another reason why they didn't respond? Well, I'm here to tell you why! When someone doesn't respond to your text, they are ignoring you. It's rude and disrespectful, and they don't care much about you. And you deserve a heckuva lot better than that!

Theory: People will think they are more important than you, but need more time to respond. Have you ever been on a date, and then the person you've been with doesn’t text you back? It's a horrible feeling. You may think they are somehow more important than you & need more time to respond...but I've learned not to buy that one. Honestly, it makes them look like an idiot because they are sooooo busy that they cannot even take the time to respond. Puh-leeze.

You may also feel that this person does not care about what is going on in your life. Perhaps something terrible has happened to you, e.g. your car broke down or got hit by another vehicle while parked on the street. You feel like crap but they aren't really that interested if they've gone silent. It can feel like a sick game.

It boils down to this: If you're wondering why someone doesn't answer your texts, most likely that they don't want to talk to you. They may be testing the waters to see if they can get away with not answering and then maybe give it another shot later down the road. You know what? That's fine. But if this person isn't willing or able at this point (or ever), please move on!

They want to spend their time responding only if theyre interested in you. It's all about them. If they do respond, and it's a short and straightforward response (like "I like your profile"), then maybe you have a shot at getting them out on a date. But if they don't even bother answering your message, it's best to avoid sending any more messages or trying again later. However, if it seems like they might be interested in dating you but don't text back right away, wait it out! They'll get back to you eventually if they want to date someone as awesome as you.

But when it comes to texting, or not, keep these points in mind, they can be mind-blowing:

  • People are less critical than you

  • You are the only one who can make your life better or worse, so it's up to you to take care of yourself first and foremost.

  • Always look out for number one

So, if you've ever wondered why someone won't text back, now you know. Likely, they don't want to talk to you or are too busy. But don't worry; plenty of other people out there will respond when they receive your message because they are actual adults who know how to communicate.

Be true to yourself, Erin

Time to Dish:

  • Have you ever not texted someone back?

  • How do you feel when you text, and someone does not text you back?

  • How did you handle that situation?

  • Can you honestly believe that grown adults - get stuck on stupid?

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