Not Stupid, Just Interested—Even If You’re Not

One of the most empowering shifts that happens after divorce is learning to own your curiosity. Asking questions, leaning in, and showing genuine interest in another person’s life isn’t a weakness—it’s a strength. It means you’ve grown enough to care, to notice, and to stay open even after being hurt.

For too long, many of us were conditioned to believe that showing interest makes us look needy, clingy, or foolish. But the truth is, there’s nothing silly about wanting to connect. Curiosity is what builds bridges between people. It’s how relationships—whether romantic, platonic, or professional—take root.

When you choose to be interested, even if the other person isn’t reciprocating, you’re demonstrating one of the most potent traits you have: confidence in your humanity. You’re not afraid to ask, to listen, to learn. That’s not “too much.” That’s precisely the kind of presence this world needs more of.

Here’s the empowering part: their lack of interest doesn’t diminish your worth. Your curiosity doesn’t need validation. Whether someone meets your energy or not, your ability to engage fully, to care deeply, and to remain open-hearted is a reflection of your strength—not your shortcomings.

So, the next time you hear that little voice whispering that you’re being “stupid” for asking questions or caring too much, silence it. You’re not stupid. You’re alive. You’re present. And you’re courageous enough to lean in where others would shut down.

Because showing interest isn’t a flaw—it’s a superpower.

Just be upfront and honest...you never know what is ahead!