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The importance of being clear about what you want in a relationship must be considered. Building a relationship without understanding your needs and expectations can lead to confusion, misunderstandings, and even heartbreak. When you have a moment or moments of clarity, please write it down, make a list, and go for it.

Firstly, knowing what you want in a relationship helps you attract the right partner. When you're aware of your deal-breakers and non-negotiables, you're less likely to settle for someone who doesn't meet your standards and more likely to attract someone compatible with you.


When you don't know what you want, you may end up dating someone simply because they're available or because you're afraid to be alone. However, clearly understanding what you're looking for helps you recognize when a particular relationship isn't working and move on.

So, how can you achieve clarity in your relationship goals? Here are a few tips:

1.    Reflect on your past relationships. Think about your previous relationships. What did you like and dislike? What patterns did you notice? Use this insight to figure out what you want in your next relationship.

2.    Make specific lists - Write down what you want in a partner and be specific. Don't just list physical attributes but also personality traits, values, and interests.

3.    Communicate with those close to you - Talk to trusted friends and family about what you want in a relationship. They may have insights that you still need to consider.

4.    Take your time - Rushing into a relationship without understanding what you want can lead to disappointment. Take time to figure out what you're looking for, and make sure to settle for more.

5.    Identify your core values - Determine your core values and priorities in life. Finding someone who aligns with your values is important, as shared values can provide a strong foundation for a successful and lasting relationship.

6.    Reflect on your personal goals—Consider your individual goals and aspirations, both short-term and long-term. Think about how a potential partner can support you in achieving these goals. Clarity about your ambitions can help you find someone who will complement and support your journey.

7.    Understand your emotional needs - Reflect on your emotional needs in a relationship. For example, do you value open communication, affection, or quality time? Understanding your emotional needs will enable you to communicate them effectively to your partner and ensure they are met.

8.    Strive for self-awareness - Develop self-awareness by exploring your strengths, weaknesses, and past relationship patterns. This can help you identify any patterns or behaviors hindering your ability to find a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

9.    Don't settle for less - In pursuing clarity, it is essential not to settle for someone who does not meet your needs or compromises your values and well-being. It can be tempting to compromise or lower your standards, but staying true to yourself and what you want in a relationship is important.

10. Be open to growth and flexibility—While clarity about your wants and needs is essential, it is also important to remain open to personal growth and change. Relationships require compromise and the ability to adapt. Be willing to reassess and adjust your expectations as you learn and grow with your partner.

Remember, achieving clarity in what you want in a relationship is an ongoing process. It's natural to evolve and refine your desires as you gain more experience and explore different relationships. Embrace the journey and trust that with clarity, patience, and self-awareness, you can find a relationship that aligns with your values and brings you happiness and fulfillment.


Do you have clarity?


Time to Dish:

  • Have you taken the time to seek clarity for yourself?

  • List five reasons why clarity is important.

  • If you have clarity, what was your journey to find it?

  • What do you want? Can you communicate this to someone you may start a relationship with?


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