Divorce is a term thrown around lightly, and it can be frustrating if you don't feel like you're in a situation where you should be divorced. However, being a divorcee has some perks that no one ever tells you about, such as:
Divorcees have more downtime.
You are not responsible for anyone else except you (and your kids, if you’re a parent).
You have more time to do the things that you enjoy.
You have more time to do the things that you want to do.
You can date as many people as you want!
And without worrying about hurting anyone's feelings. You can be more open about what you want, don't like, and what you're looking for in a partner. Dating for fun is different than dating to have children. But here’s a reality check: If you're a single parent, it's easy to feel pressure from your partner or other people to settle down and start a family. If you're not ready yet or don't want kids, this kind of pressure can be frustrating and even emotionally draining. You must know what you want before committing yourself fully; otherwise, it can lead to resentment in your relationship.
Also, now that you’re single you have more time on their hands than married couples do as you don't have children or partners who need attention 24/7! This means that singles can date as many people as they like without feeling guilty about spending time apart from their significant others (or lack thereof). Single people also tend to be more selective when choosing potential mates because there aren't any kids involved yet, so if something doesn't feel right during the first few dates, no worries! You're free, free falling.
Free yourself from worry and meet new people.
Divorced people have a lot of freedom and flexibility, which allows them to do things that married people might not be able to. For example, go ahead if you're divorced and want to vacation with your best friend for two weeks in Europe or Asia! You don't have kids at home that need your attention 24/7 when you have joint custody. If your ex is on board with it and wants time off from parenting, go ahead!
Some divorcees also don't have any worries about having kids together anymore.
They've already split up, so there's no chance of having another child together. Period.
Remind yourself that being single is a good thing.
It's easy to forget that being single is a good thing. You might have been in a relationship for a long time and had gotten used to having someone around, but now that they're gone, you have time. Single people are also more likely to do things they want because they don't have anyone else with an opinion about it (or at least not as much). If two people were deciding where we wanted dinner or what movie we should watch, there would always be disagreements about where/what we should do. As a result of this lack of decision-making power, many divorced people decide that they need more skills so that when their next relationship comes along (or even if it doesn't), they can bring something valuable with them into the new partnership.
Meeting new people isn't scary.
When there isn't another person, depending on whether this new friend becomes part of your life, you can go out and meet some folks without worrying about whether they will like them enough for all parties involved!
Divorcees should remember that they are free to do as they please. They can date whomever they want, go on trips whenever they want, and even sleep with whomever they want. It's a great feeling to know that no one will judge you for being single because it means there is more time for fun!
Enjoy yourselves,
Erin